September, 2015
My 67th birthday was a few weeks ago and my horoscope said I will find love and "financial reward" soon. An old surfboard that I paid $20 for 10 years ago brought in a sweet $180 at a local consignment shop so I got a nice $90 for it. I hope that wasn't the "financial reward" they were talking about. So far I still haven't been able to catch a break in that category at all.
So far this year I've had huge bills for dental work; an increase in home owner insurance, real estate taxes, my 2005 Ford with 168,000 miles is in need of a lot of repairing as well as my 10 year old dog who is needing more and more vet care.
Last year I thought I could start selling real estate up here (like I did for 15 years in Illinois) but it's proved extremely difficult. This is a county with folks who not only have been here since grammar school and they all know each other or are related, but the diversity of real estate has proved trying to say the least. In past I never needed to know all the different types and sizes of wells, septic fields and perk tests. You have beachfront, water view, inland, agricultural, commercial, mobile homes, manufactured homes and boat slips to list and sell, not to mention condos and hotel condos. Who knew?
Reason I'm mentioning this is it's been an up hill battle and I gave it a year. Well, a year is coming to an end and I must stop the financial bleeding. Real Estate licenses cost quite a bit to get and maintain ....just can't do it any more. So, what, I need to figure out do I do now? I had hoped to be able to quite my retail job but that won't be happening. So now I guess I should call this blog "Starting Over Again and Again and, who knows, maybe even Again"
Dating has been interesting (as ever). I met a guy thought was my perfect guy. Didn't lie about his height, pony tail (always have been a sucker for that look), an art teacher, musician, handsome, we had a great time. He lives, however, 120 miles away, so it didn't last. Damn! He was (and is) perfect. However, I also met a very, nice man who may turn out to be something other than friend. Just have to get "Mr.Perfect" out of my mind.
Just saw "Walk in the Woods". It's a movie with Robert Redford and Nick Nolte. It's quite funny about 2 old guys in their 60's who think they can walk the 2,000 miles of the Appalachian Trail. Maybe I should attempt some great (at least to me) feat like that. I've already run marathons, raced motorcycles, been in a movie, even did some modeling; what is left? Nothing that involves heights or situations where the end result may result in death. Only places I really want to go are Norway, Sweden, or Iceland. Hmmm.....time to really take a look at things.
Really thought my life direction decisions were behind me and I was just going to sail along in a steady upward direction. Again I ask, when is my ship and/or prince coming in? haha.
The "new me" likes to look on the bright side every time the world sends me shit. When I got divorced, the rug was pulled out from under me and my life was turned upside down. 5 years have gone by and I thought I was finally at the light at the end of the tunnel and now......whiisshh!!! there it goes again. Life is not stagnant or predictable. Just like when I was in my teens and twenty's, it's always a changing world. I really think this will have a positive effect on me....keep me young and sharp. (There has to be a bright side, right?)
I need to go check my lottery numbers now.
Friday, September 25, 2015
Wednesday, August 19, 2015
First I want to thank all of you who have written me emails, or commented on my posts. I'm sending you my love and encouragement in your life changing process. Please feel free to email me any time.
Dating update: So the guy with the boat.....Where do I begin. First, it wasn't his boat, it belongs to his friend. He also lied about his height and body type. I don't mind a few extra pounds, but please don't advertise yourself as super fit and toned if your not. What's the point? I'm 5'10" and can tell if you lie about your height. Most men do lie a little about this, so I can forgive that one. During our meeting he talked about his son a lot, turns out his son is 52. Wait a minute....he said he was 67. Huh? Turns out hes 72. His excuse is that women don't respond to his emails if he tells them he's over 70. What do these guys think, that we're so dumb we can't do simple math? He also lit up a cigar in the car. Claims that they don't count and he wasn't lying when he said he didn't smoke. My sister was visiting me at the time so I used her as an excuse to exit early.
Back to the drawing board....or in this case, the dating sights.
Dating tip. You can't get upset with these loser dates. It's no reflection on you. Don't take it personally. View it as a game. Win some lose some. I to a motivational speaker once who talked about the power of "NO". The gist is not to feel defeated by a "NO". Every NO is one step closer to a YES. It's all in the numbers. After so many NO's a YES has to happen eventually, so just think you're getting closer to that YES. I should be getting pretty close, by now. (haha)
Days are getting shorter. Where I live there are no street lights and it's pitch black at night. I'm thinking of moving. As beautiful as this area is, I don't think I can take another winter with the loneliness and darkness. I also fear falling on the ice or some other accident with no one around. I have neighbors, but they are a way away. My three sons are coming to visit over Labor Day. I'm so excited, but OMG 3 grown young men and me and 3 animals in my little 2 bedroom house. It will be tons of fun. As long as they don't fight. Sometimes when they're together they revert back to 12 year olds. As I've mentioned before, this place I live was originally built to be our summer house. In the woods by the lake, but I don't think I can live here full time any more. I'll need to have a heart to heart with the boys to try to figure out my plan.
More later.
Dating update: So the guy with the boat.....Where do I begin. First, it wasn't his boat, it belongs to his friend. He also lied about his height and body type. I don't mind a few extra pounds, but please don't advertise yourself as super fit and toned if your not. What's the point? I'm 5'10" and can tell if you lie about your height. Most men do lie a little about this, so I can forgive that one. During our meeting he talked about his son a lot, turns out his son is 52. Wait a minute....he said he was 67. Huh? Turns out hes 72. His excuse is that women don't respond to his emails if he tells them he's over 70. What do these guys think, that we're so dumb we can't do simple math? He also lit up a cigar in the car. Claims that they don't count and he wasn't lying when he said he didn't smoke. My sister was visiting me at the time so I used her as an excuse to exit early.
Back to the drawing board....or in this case, the dating sights.
Dating tip. You can't get upset with these loser dates. It's no reflection on you. Don't take it personally. View it as a game. Win some lose some. I to a motivational speaker once who talked about the power of "NO". The gist is not to feel defeated by a "NO". Every NO is one step closer to a YES. It's all in the numbers. After so many NO's a YES has to happen eventually, so just think you're getting closer to that YES. I should be getting pretty close, by now. (haha)
Days are getting shorter. Where I live there are no street lights and it's pitch black at night. I'm thinking of moving. As beautiful as this area is, I don't think I can take another winter with the loneliness and darkness. I also fear falling on the ice or some other accident with no one around. I have neighbors, but they are a way away. My three sons are coming to visit over Labor Day. I'm so excited, but OMG 3 grown young men and me and 3 animals in my little 2 bedroom house. It will be tons of fun. As long as they don't fight. Sometimes when they're together they revert back to 12 year olds. As I've mentioned before, this place I live was originally built to be our summer house. In the woods by the lake, but I don't think I can live here full time any more. I'll need to have a heart to heart with the boys to try to figure out my plan.
More later.
Sunday, July 5, 2015
Happy 4th of July!
Alone on the 4th. Lonely. I spent the weekend getting the house ready for my guests this weekend. I could hear all the neighbors down at the beach with their families and smell the grills. At night there was fireworks down at the beach but I stayed in. I've lived here for 5 years. I love the beach and the beauty up here, but the last 2 years have seen Lake Michigan at it's highest in years so bye bye beach which is a total bummer for me since to me, that was a huge part of my decision to move up here.
What if I moved back? Would it be the same? I have friends there, but who knows if they're not going to move away and then what? My kids are there, but same thing, who knows if they are staying in Chicago for a long time? They say you can never go home again.....hmmmm. I certainly don't want to move to a new place and start this whole thing over again. It's here or there.
The dating sights are pretty active lately. I was contacted by a guy who looks like potential. I even sent him my phone number. Never did that before. Just had a feeling.There's another guy I'm meeting up with in 2 weeks (has a boat!) We'll see. The woman who owns the store at which I work says you can forecast the crowds by the fishing reports. I've paid attention and the dating sights get active along with the fishing reports. When the fish get active, the guys do to I guess. Pretty funny. I'll report how it works out.
What if I moved back? Would it be the same? I have friends there, but who knows if they're not going to move away and then what? My kids are there, but same thing, who knows if they are staying in Chicago for a long time? They say you can never go home again.....hmmmm. I certainly don't want to move to a new place and start this whole thing over again. It's here or there.
The dating sights are pretty active lately. I was contacted by a guy who looks like potential. I even sent him my phone number. Never did that before. Just had a feeling.There's another guy I'm meeting up with in 2 weeks (has a boat!) We'll see. The woman who owns the store at which I work says you can forecast the crowds by the fishing reports. I've paid attention and the dating sights get active along with the fishing reports. When the fish get active, the guys do to I guess. Pretty funny. I'll report how it works out.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
July 1, 2015
I haven't written in a long time. Still trying to get my real estate business off the ground. Selling here is so different. It's part agricultural, part small town and part retirement community. Very different from selling in the city of Chicago. Everybody knows everyone, or they went to school, worked with or slept with everyone else. I don't have any history with these folks so it's an uphill climb to get anywhere in this business. I like I'm trying to go up and down escalator. I'm giving it till spring and then I'm going to seriously think about moving back to Illinois or at least find a little place in town so I have a few more neighbors and don't have to drive 15 miles to buy groceries.
Been on a few dates. ALL LOSERS! Have only met frogs, still looking for that prince.(old prince haha) Met one guy for coffee the other day. 2 hours of listening to him talk about himself, his kids and grand kids, not one thing about me. Every time I tried to talk he changed the conversation back to himself. I even had to pay for my own coffee! When I got home I emailed him that I didn't want to see him ever again He emailed me back "So sorry to hear that, I was looking forward to seeing you again" WHAT!!!!???
This is a short post as I have to get up for a root canal tomorrow morning at 8am. My fun life, huh?
I haven't written in a long time. Still trying to get my real estate business off the ground. Selling here is so different. It's part agricultural, part small town and part retirement community. Very different from selling in the city of Chicago. Everybody knows everyone, or they went to school, worked with or slept with everyone else. I don't have any history with these folks so it's an uphill climb to get anywhere in this business. I like I'm trying to go up and down escalator. I'm giving it till spring and then I'm going to seriously think about moving back to Illinois or at least find a little place in town so I have a few more neighbors and don't have to drive 15 miles to buy groceries.
Been on a few dates. ALL LOSERS! Have only met frogs, still looking for that prince.(old prince haha) Met one guy for coffee the other day. 2 hours of listening to him talk about himself, his kids and grand kids, not one thing about me. Every time I tried to talk he changed the conversation back to himself. I even had to pay for my own coffee! When I got home I emailed him that I didn't want to see him ever again He emailed me back "So sorry to hear that, I was looking forward to seeing you again" WHAT!!!!???
This is a short post as I have to get up for a root canal tomorrow morning at 8am. My fun life, huh?
Monday, January 26, 2015
First post in my new "no more whining" position on life. I had a major, MAJOR setback the other week but I won't go into it as it doesn't conform to my new outlook on life and I just don't want to share.
Weather is getting cold and blustery. Leaves off the trees and winter on the way. I am dreading the winter. Hear mixed reports of what's to come. Some say it's going to be milder than last winter (which won't be hard to do) and some say it will be worse. Now how much worse can it be after almost 50 days in a row below -10degrees!!
My "left at 2am without a reason" guy show up again. He's turning into a very good friend and I'm glad I gave him a second chance. Really came through for me in a pinch. So lesson learned: don't be so quick to judge and ALWAYS give people a second chance and we all fuck up on occasion so just lighten up!
It's rutting season for the deer up here and I have found that this is kinda a universal season among all males of all species. The dating sights are lighting up like crazy and guys are all calling wanting to do chores around my house. I've noticed over the past few years that this all coincides with nature. Those poor bucks don't have to do chores to get the doe's attention (just risk getting shot at). But I love the extra help so no complaints.
It's very hard to maintain a house by yourself. Even if you have a spouse or roommate with no handyman skills, it's nice to have another person to help walk the dog on rainy nights, scrape windshields, do simple household stuff, paint, run errands, etc. Not to mention just holding your hand when it's storming like hell outside.
I've given moving a great deal of thought lately. I love it here, but my neighbors, though very nice, are all retired and pretty set in their retired ways. If I go anywhere I need either a date, or drive 10-20 miles to my friends up here, which means driving back late at night alone. (not fun) The beach is fantastic, but unless I have company, I rarely go walking on it.
Weather is getting cold and blustery. Leaves off the trees and winter on the way. I am dreading the winter. Hear mixed reports of what's to come. Some say it's going to be milder than last winter (which won't be hard to do) and some say it will be worse. Now how much worse can it be after almost 50 days in a row below -10degrees!!
My "left at 2am without a reason" guy show up again. He's turning into a very good friend and I'm glad I gave him a second chance. Really came through for me in a pinch. So lesson learned: don't be so quick to judge and ALWAYS give people a second chance and we all fuck up on occasion so just lighten up!
It's rutting season for the deer up here and I have found that this is kinda a universal season among all males of all species. The dating sights are lighting up like crazy and guys are all calling wanting to do chores around my house. I've noticed over the past few years that this all coincides with nature. Those poor bucks don't have to do chores to get the doe's attention (just risk getting shot at). But I love the extra help so no complaints.
It's very hard to maintain a house by yourself. Even if you have a spouse or roommate with no handyman skills, it's nice to have another person to help walk the dog on rainy nights, scrape windshields, do simple household stuff, paint, run errands, etc. Not to mention just holding your hand when it's storming like hell outside.
I've given moving a great deal of thought lately. I love it here, but my neighbors, though very nice, are all retired and pretty set in their retired ways. If I go anywhere I need either a date, or drive 10-20 miles to my friends up here, which means driving back late at night alone. (not fun) The beach is fantastic, but unless I have company, I rarely go walking on it.
Sex.... At 66? Are you kidding me???? I think that is the worst thing about dating again. You go out with a nice guy once and you're back in high school. "Do I kiss him?" If I go too far will he think I'm cheap? I've decided that there are none of those stupid rules for me anymore. First of all the only reason we were afraid to have sex at teenagers was the fear of pregnancy. That isn't happening , so what's the hold up.=? Afraid he'll think you're a slut? HA! that train has left the station. By this age we've all had sex and probably a lot of it. There's no pretending we're virgins or have some stellar reputation to uphold. I like sex. Didn't so much with my ex but have found out that now I am much more relaxed (a little help from the Energizer Bunny if you get my drift). has taught me I can have an orgasm and not be embarrassed.
I read a funny article once that said as part of your final arrangements you should designate some friend that as soon as you die, she will run to your house and clear your hard drive and rid your night stand of all the sex toys before your kids get there to pack up your stuff.
I do have this nagging little fear that I'll have a heart attack in bed and they'll find me with a vibrator in my vagina. AAUURRGH! Could there be anything worse? Hope I'll have enough time to yank it out if that happens. I know, you're thinking this is really stupid, but when you live alone, these things rattle around in your head. It's also another good reason to wear full make up all the time. (crazy?? )
I am amazed at the, how shall I say it, diminutive size that most men in their late 50's and 60's are.
Maybe I'm spoiled my ex was an asshole but he was hung like a horse. Men I meet now are teeny weeny in comparison. If they manage an erection, I can't even feel him in there. Having birthed 3 kids. I'm not as tight as I once was. They still manage to make comments about that so as to blame me for the failure in bed. Have yet to have a really successful night. All that in mind, I'm doing just find on my own.
And please if any men are reading this. Ditch the tighty whiteys. I haven't seen them since my kids were 7. A grown man should wear grown men under ware. Those TW's are a total turn off. Plus they've probably had them for years and they are always dingy and saggy. Do they even sell then any more? Probably bought by there ex-wives 35 years ago.
When I was first divorced, I was trying very hard to feel young and beautiful. Got some passes from younger (40's) men and went out with some. Got that out of my system. I wanted to see what the attraction was since my husband decided he wanted someone that age. That didn't last long. If I had got divorced 15 years ago things would be very different. My husband claimed that the marriage was over 15 years before. If that was true, I wish he had divorced me then I would be 50 now. Young enough to easily start over in my love life and career. Not so much now.
There is a new TV show on Bravo TV called "A Girlfriends Guid to Divorce" Very funny. If you haven't seen it, check it out. Some of the lines are identical to lines I've written in this blog. I assume they aren't reading this, so it's probably just a universal thing. If they are getting ideas from this, I want my check! I see myself somehow in every show. The star also has 3 friends who could be any of our friends. Great show. Will give you a laugh.
I read a funny article once that said as part of your final arrangements you should designate some friend that as soon as you die, she will run to your house and clear your hard drive and rid your night stand of all the sex toys before your kids get there to pack up your stuff.
I do have this nagging little fear that I'll have a heart attack in bed and they'll find me with a vibrator in my vagina. AAUURRGH! Could there be anything worse? Hope I'll have enough time to yank it out if that happens. I know, you're thinking this is really stupid, but when you live alone, these things rattle around in your head. It's also another good reason to wear full make up all the time. (crazy?? )
I am amazed at the, how shall I say it, diminutive size that most men in their late 50's and 60's are.
Maybe I'm spoiled my ex was an asshole but he was hung like a horse. Men I meet now are teeny weeny in comparison. If they manage an erection, I can't even feel him in there. Having birthed 3 kids. I'm not as tight as I once was. They still manage to make comments about that so as to blame me for the failure in bed. Have yet to have a really successful night. All that in mind, I'm doing just find on my own.
And please if any men are reading this. Ditch the tighty whiteys. I haven't seen them since my kids were 7. A grown man should wear grown men under ware. Those TW's are a total turn off. Plus they've probably had them for years and they are always dingy and saggy. Do they even sell then any more? Probably bought by there ex-wives 35 years ago.
When I was first divorced, I was trying very hard to feel young and beautiful. Got some passes from younger (40's) men and went out with some. Got that out of my system. I wanted to see what the attraction was since my husband decided he wanted someone that age. That didn't last long. If I had got divorced 15 years ago things would be very different. My husband claimed that the marriage was over 15 years before. If that was true, I wish he had divorced me then I would be 50 now. Young enough to easily start over in my love life and career. Not so much now.
There is a new TV show on Bravo TV called "A Girlfriends Guid to Divorce" Very funny. If you haven't seen it, check it out. Some of the lines are identical to lines I've written in this blog. I assume they aren't reading this, so it's probably just a universal thing. If they are getting ideas from this, I want my check! I see myself somehow in every show. The star also has 3 friends who could be any of our friends. Great show. Will give you a laugh.
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